5 Things I learnt from my Mother
# Optimism
I usually used to make fun for her optimism (positivity) , to be honest even now I do that but eventually I have realised importance of it. No matter what situation is no matter things roll she would always try to find a silver lining. When I say worst situation I mean the most unfavourable ones but she still maintains her optimistic aura and calm. She would always state some even more terrible situations that could happen but didn’t so we should be grateful about that it sounds extremely hilarious but somehow works.
# Focus on SOLUTION instead of Problems
I am glad that I learnt this from her because trust me this would change your life. Every living species on the planet has to deal with something or the other problem in life. But we humans constantly fall into the trap of grass is always greener on the other side but reality is far away from that. EVERYONE has to deal with some or the other obstacle in life , It depends on how you deal with it. You should prefer to find solution than discussing your problems with people. My mum always says that you should only share your difficult situation with person who has an answer to your situation and you are sure he or she would be willing to help , otherwise we should never ever discuss because If you share your problem with your beloved they will get upset because of you and they can’t even help you secondly I am sure you will have another set of people in life who would be happy to know that you are stuck in difficult circumstance.
# Not Every Trouble comes with Quick-Fix
It is really difficult to digest but we must accept it. We should give our best in finding solutions still if we can’t…we must accept it and “let Krishna be the player”. Not every problem or every problematic human has solution sometimes we just have to deal with. My mum always emphasis it as or own karma and we have to tolerate or deal with it. It doesn’t mean to stay in a toxic relationship. If you have certain negative people in your family or work and you absolutely have an unavoidable situation and you have to deal with them , I would just suggest do you your duties and ignore them just remove them from your circle of concern. Don’t worry about people who are unnecessarily disturbing you KARMA will take care of it might happen instantly or may be sometimes it will take time , If you are lucky enough it will happen in front of your eyes but it will happen for sure. KARMA has no menu they will get what they deserve.
# Choose your word wisely
To be very honest , I have also failed sometimes practising it but I must say I have come a long way. Words are really powerful either they can create or they can destroy. Never mix bad words with bad moods because you will have so many opportunities to change your bad moods but yo can’t replace your bad words. I have learnt to be patient and keep my calm. I do fail once in a blue moon but otherwise I try and practise. If you are in a situation where you have to use foul language try and leave that space. I would like to add one thing a lot of teenagers find it cool to use abusive English language but trust me the amount of negativity is same. Lastly I would like to say this doesn’t mean anyone and everyone has right to speak in a derogatory manner , take a stand , keep your point firmly and just create a distance if possible from negative people.
# Make yourself a PRIORITY
Give yourself time everyday. It could be anything you can enjoy spirituality , sports , television reading writing anything under the sky (obviously which will not harm anyone). Have a routine in life and try to sticky to it although I am struggling to practise. Take time decide your boundaries set them and not allow anyone to violate them. Give yourself some privacy and let other also enjoy it. The easiest way to make yourself priority is by stop judging other people and focus on yourself. My mother really enjoys her company and I resemble her in that. I am one of the blessed child I must admit it because our mum never invaded our privacy.